Wedding receptions are marked by several formalities, one of which being the newly married couple's first dance. Usually the first dance takes place right after the bridal party has been introduced and is a major photo opportunity for your guests and photographer. That being said, it has been my experience as a DJ that the first dance is a source of wedding day stress and dilemma for most couples that I meet.
As part of my DJ consultation, I always ask if a couple has chosen their first dance song. However, it is rare that a bride and groom knows their first dance song months ahead of time, and if they do have a first dance song request, they often change their minds closer to their big day. So—to all you couples who are still knee deep in the planning process—don't despair; you are not alone and you will pick the right song in the end.
As a DJ, I always provide a list of songs to help couples think of options for their wedding. In addition, I generally recommend that a bride and groom who are struggling to pick the right song actually start by selecting five or six songs that they like. From this list, they are better able to narrow their choices down to one or two songs. If they are unable to select one song, I typically suggest that they pick two songs. From here, they can select one for their first dance and one for their last dance. This way, there is less "selector's remorse" as they will have two opportunities to dance to the song of their dreams during their reception.
Some of the most memorable first dances that I have seen are by couples who relax and truly have fun with the moment. In the end, most newly married individuals are not professional dancers, so my advice is to not put too much pressure on the matter. While watching a
couple move a couple move gracefully around the dance floor is truly impressive, it is equally, if not more entertaining to watch a couple in love laugh as they bust a move in front of their family and friends.
To show you just what I mean, please feel free to watch the video below of a newlywed bride and groom as they make the most of their first dance. Any DJ who is kept in the loop would have fun with a dance request like this.